The Multifaceted Butterfly

800px-TwoLorenzOrbits.jpg“We can be whatever we want to be and do whatever we want to do…all we have to do is dream it and work towards it” – says almost everyone these days.*Yuck* That my friend is a myth (I stand to be corrected). It doesn’t always work that way.

For multitalented people – those who have the ability to different things from sometimes unrelated fields- we cannot all be what we want to be, neither can we do all that we want to do. We can only achieve 50% (or thereabout) of what we want to do or be and most times at a huge cost- mostly psychologically and sometimes emotionally. Now, I am not going to bother you all and myself with the numbers and scientific evidence. Why should I, when I am already a living proof? Why should I bother with the scientific gibberish when I know some others just like myself?

One time, I tried having a conversation with a friend who was multi potential and sent a text that read “Sup”. Her reply was, “My dear, I am stressed and almost confused… I am getting fat from stress eating … I always have gas in my system … I have zero fun …the heat is unbearable … there hasn’t been light for the past one week here…” Jesus!!! All I asked was “Sup” and she poured out all of that and more. But you know what, I understood. I really did. These complaints are just a small part of the price we pay for being creatively multitalented. I call it the BUTTERFLY EFFECT – the consequences of being multifaceted like a butterfly.

Here is the thing – some of us are so multitalented, so much so that we are capable of doing many things; and contrary to popular belief, it can be really frustrating and confusing choosing what to do – career wise and especially after graduation.

Take these butterflies for example (not using real names):

°Rose studied Mass communication as a course, designs and sews as well, writes and blogs and is also a public speaker and female MC.
°Ken is studying Economics, is a bad ass songwriter and rapper, a mean photographer and sketch artist.
°Linda is studying architecture, a bad ass professional dancer, and also a writer and blogger and sometimes a doodler.
°Fina studies law, is a great doodler and sketch artist, a writer and sometimes dabbles with jewellery making, which is actually good at.
°Ada studied Economics and is a good radio presenter. She is a bad ass accessory and jewellery designer and maker, content developer and writer and sometimes doodles quirkily.

These people and so many others have been blessed with more than talent and I know most of you would be wondering what the problem is exactly because all you see is one person with so many options to choose from- especially as a source of income.

Yes, we have so many options for future careers but the downside is, we struggle greatly deciding which path to follow and which choice would be more optimal. The process to choosing can be very chafing and oftentimes, turn into a state of depression. During this process, we tend to lose friends and shut people out – only very few of them understands and are very supportive. Some people would perceive you as ‘unserious’.

So to my fellow butterflies, here is my two-piece: There are and would be many periods of anxiety and self-doubt, but it ‘dun’ matter. The first thing we should do is to let go of the need for approval – even from ourselves and just do the first thing that feels right. Never try to overthink things because that’s when the self-doubt and negativity begins to work its way into our heads. Make your circle small and never ever try to explain yourself and your dreams/goals (consistently) to people who don’t understand – some of whom only hear what you say but don’t listen. And according to Lisa Rivero, ‘Optimal adjustment’ is key; that is finding a blend between personal abilities, personal preferences, and requirements and rewards (especially from workplace environment). And for heaven’s sakes, you are allowed to make mistakes – after all, you have so many options at your fingertips.

And to the people (parents, friends, etc.) who have these double-edged sword of giftedness around them…learn to identify that we are really different people and that the process of “toughen up” or “being serious” with our lives and exactly what we want to do would only take longer time when you tend to badger and make us seem stupid.

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4 thoughts on “The Multifaceted Butterfly

  1. Plainsarah says:

    While reading this, I kept wondering if you were in my home yesterday when my sister asked me what exactly I want to do with my life. Truth is I’m a Mass Comm graduate who loves writing, fashion, travelling, photography, music, art, etc. I can just about do anything with my life but not one thing. This makes me seem unserious when I try explaining to my friends and fam. I’ve gone through lots of depressive states cos of this and other reasons. So, you hot the nail on the head with that one. Thanks for sharing

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    • The Oddball says:

      I am glad I could help you feel ‘not alone’. You have to try to not over think your decisions and to block out the voices, that way the tendency to delve into depressive states would be lessened. Thanks you for reading and commenting.

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